Source: Antonio Guillem
Many significant others become upset when their musician partner is tending to his/her craft. In order to successfully date a musician who is serious about his/her music, there are a few things you should keep in mind. Below is a list of things to consider in order to maintain a healthy relationship with your favorite artist.
It is a job, and if done successfully, it is a career. Like any typical 9-5 job, when we are working, we can't be on our phones constantly giving you attention. It's unprofessional. It doesn't mean we love you any less. It means we care about our career just as much as you should yours, and when we're at work, we work. Tirelessly. We can work long hours too. Sometimes during the day. Sometimes through the night. Whatever gets the job done.
2. We Get Paid to Look Good
Making music isn't the only thing we need to worry about in our profession. Our image is equally important. It is part of our job to be physically appealing to other people besides you, to mingle with them, and to get them interested in us, so we can build a dedicated and engaging fan base. We aren't trying to get with our fans. If you're at our shows, believe us when we say we are so happy you are there supporting us because it really does fill our hearts with joy to have our best friend there with us, but we can't be around you the whole time. Again, it is our job to engage with all of our fans, not just our #1 fan.
3. Be Supportive
This brings me to my next point. Be supportive. Being a successful musician is extremely difficult, especially early on. We constantly have people telling us that we won't make it. That we should "get a real job." If you can't be a beacon of encouragement and help us believe in ourselves, I promise you won't be in our lives for very long.
4. Being a Musician Means Going on Tour
We don't make money selling our music. We make money selling our merchandise. The best place to do that? At our shows. Touring is an absolute necessity if we want to successfully make a living. This means we will be away from home for extended periods of time. If you aren't on the road with us, please don't be making us feel guilty for not being there with you. Of course we want to be with you, but we can't do our job well if we are constantly having to worry about being away from you.
5. Your Opinion Matters
Just because you're not a musician yourself doesn't mean we don't value what you think about our music. If we ask for your thoughts on something we're working on, please really listen to it and give us honest, constructive feedback. When it comes down to it, you're a fan and a listener just like the rest of our audience. What you think matters because it will help us determine what other listeners may think.
6. You're Dating the Band
Our relationship is more likely to last if you're friends with all of our bandmates, and their significant others too. It's easier to have fun with everyone when everyone likes each other.
7. You Don't Suck at Singing
Even if we rock at it, we still love hearing you sing along to your favorite songs on our car rides or in the shower. Don't be afraid to go for it when you're around us. It's adorable to us.
Life dating a musician may be unusual to say the least, but like any relationship, it can also be highly rewarding when you know how to navigate it. Treat your musician's job like you would treat anyone else's, and know that we love you.
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